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Gentle Measures in the Training of the Young …

The Principles on which a firm parental authority may be established and maintained, without violence or anger, and the right development of the moral and mental capacities be promoted by methods in harmony with the structure and the characteristics of the juvenile mind

Abbott, Jacob
Harper 1871        Dewey Dec.    649

Your Eight-Year-Old: Lively and Outgoing

Ames, Louise Bates
Dell 1990        Dewey Dec.    649

A discussion of the basic personality and typical physical and mental development of the eight-year-old.

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Your Three-year-old: friend or enemy

Ames, Louise Bates and Ilg, Francis L.
Dell 1976        Dewey Dec.    649

“A three-year-old is a real puzzle to parents, sometimes anxious to please and befriend, sometimes strong-willed and difficult to get along with. At the heart of the three-year-old’s personality is often an emotional insecurity–and this causes a host of problems for parents! Drs. Ames and Ilg, recognized authorities on child behavior and development, help parents understand what’s going on inside that three-year-old head, what problems children have, and how to cope with the toddler who is sometimes friend, sometimes enemy.” -Publisher

Contents: Characteristics of the age — The child with other children — Techniques — Accomplishments and abilities — The three-year-old birthday party — Help with routines — The child’s mind, or, How he sees the world – – Individuality — Stories from real life.

Discipline: The Brazelton Way

Brazelton, T. Berry
De Capo 2003        Dewey Dec.    649

“Sleepless nights, wailing babies, and defiant toddlers-these are universal issues for new parents. Now beloved pediatrician T. Berry Brazelton and his esteemed colleague the child psychiatrist Joshua Sparrow come to the rescue with these highly effective and affordable guides. Full of empathy, warmth, and wisdom, each book in the Brazelton Way series leads parents step-by-step through these trying struggles. Courtesy of Dr. Brazelton’s unparalleled under-standing and experience, parents will emerge from the turmoil relieved, empowered, and full of new pleasure in the strength and progress of their individual child.” – Publisher

The Expectant Father: facts, tips, and advice for dads-to-be

Brott, Armin A. and Ash Jennifer
Abbeville 2001        Dewey Dec.    649

Here is an information-packed guide to all the emotional, financial, and yes, even physical changes the father-to-be may experience during the course of his partner’s pregnancy. Filled with advice and practical tips for men, this book reassures, commiserates and informs. New Yorker-style cartoons throughout. -Publisher

Contents: The first decisions — Salad days — The doctor will see you now — Spreading the word — Money, money, money — The lights are on and somebody’s home — Work and family — Entering the home stretch — Making a list and checking it twice — “Dear, it’s time …” — Labor and delivery — Cesarean section — Gee honey, now what do we do? — Father today.

Teaching Tolerance: raising open-minded, empathetic children

Bullard, Sara
Doubleday 1996        Dewey Dec.    649

“Teaching Tolerance is an invitation to parents and teachers: an invitation to examine their own habits and attitudes toward the community around them. Sara Bullard believes that once a parent is aware of the attitudes they were raised with, it is easier for them to teach their children true tolerance toward others. The first chapters of Teaching Tolerance focus on the humanness of intolerance-no one is truly exempt from the habit of judging others. The fourth chapter outlines the work required to alter intolerant instincts. The last four chapters walk parents through children’s need for security, self-expression and moral guidance; needs which, if respectfully met, will free them to be comfortable both with themselves and with people of different backgrounds.” -Publisher

Self-Training for Mothers

Chance, Mrs. Burton
Lippincott 1914        Dewey Dec.    649

Contents: 1. What Qualities Make a Good Mother?, 2. The Mother’s Duty to Herself, 3. Making Time, 4. Health, 5. Nursery Days – Spiritual, 6. Nursery Days – Physical, 7. Discipline, 8. Responsibility, 9. School Days, 10. Amusement, 11. Books for Children, 12. Individuality, 13. Influencing Older Children, 14. Home and the Child, 15. How Much Shall We Tell the Children?, 16. Chaperonage, 17. When the Children Marry (Spiritual Preparation), 18. When the Children Marry (Physical Preparation), 19. A Fourth “R” in Education

Books on Social Services, Poverty, Welfare, Social Policy

Bringing Up Boys: A Study

Clark, Kate Upson
Crowell 1899        Dewey Dec.    649

Contents: 1. Taking Boys Seriously, 2. The Boy’s Manners, 3. Boys versus Sentimentality, 4. Personal Defects and Peculiarities, 5. Keeping Boys Busy, 6. Shall the Boy Smoke?, 7. Games and Athletics, 8. The Boy’s Library, 9. The Boy’s Evenings, 10. The Social Discipline of the Boy, 11. The Moral Discipline of the Boy, 12. The Religious Discipline of the Boy, 13. The Boy’s Politics

Care of Children

Cotton, Alfred Cleveland, M. D.
American School of Home Economics 1907        Dewey Dec.    649

A volume in the Library of Home Economics 12-volume home study course.

For Better or Worse. A Book for Some Men and All Women

Croly, Jennie Cunningham
Lee and Shepard 1875        Dewey Dec.    306

Contents: 1. Maidenhood, 2. What Education does for Girls, 3. Boy and Girl Love, 4. Qualifications for Marriage, 5. Engaged, 6. The “Honey-moon”, 7. The Duty of the Wife, 8. Duties of Husbands, 9. Duty of Parents, 10. Marriage as a Partnership, 11. Marriage as a Mistake, 12. Marrying for Money, 13. Marrying without Money, 14. Marrying for a Home, 15. True Marriage, 16. The Future Husband, 17. The Family of the Future, 18. Married Forever, 19. Household Traditions, 20. Modern Bridals, 21. The Sin of Ignorance, 22. Divorce, 23. Domestic Service

Saving Beauty from the Beast: How to Protect your Daughter from an Unhealthy Relationship

Saving Beauty from the Beast Book Cover

Crompton, Vicki and Kessner, Ellen Zelda
Little, Brown 2003        Dewey Dec.    362.8

Offers advice for dealing with teen dating abuse, from stalking to physical assault, discussing the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship, steps that friends and parents can take, and ways to intervene effectively. “The book illuminates the problems of dangerous relationships by describing their characteristics, mapping out warning signs of abuse and offering sound advice for parents seeking to empower their daughters.” – Pub Wkly

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Girls will be Girls: raising confident and courageous daughters

Deak, Joann and Barker, Teresa
Hyperion 2002        Dewey Dec.    649

“Following in the footsteps of Mary Pipher’s groundbreaking Reviving Ophelia and Michael G. Thompson’s Raising Cain, Deak here offers a comprehensive road map to the many emotional and physical challenges girls of all ages face in today’s changing world. Bringing together stories and lessons from more than 20 years as a school psychologist, the latest brain research on girls, and the voices of girls themselves, this masterly book fulfills a desperate need for clear guiding principles to help mothers, fathers and daughters navigate this chaotic contemporary culture.” -Publisher

Contents: ch. 1. The search for perspective — ch. 2. The formative years : the layering of nature, nurture, and life experience — ch. 3. Betwixt and between : the preadolescent years — ch. 4. Everything and nothing : sharing the adolescent girl’s struggle to be and become herself — ch. 5. Mothers and daughters : roots to grow, wings to fly — ch. 6. Fathers and daughters : soul mates, strangers, and a delicate dance — ch. 7. The Galapagos Islands of girls’ social development — ch. 8. Aiming to please : moving beyond the “tyranny of niceness” — ch. 9. Parents under pressure : how to think straight when worry sets in — ch. 10. Girls in action : the magic of doing.

Arrested: What to Do When Your Loved One’s in Jail

Arrested Book Cover

Denham, Wes
Chicago Review 2010        Dewey Dec.    362.8

“An extended checklist for those coping with the incarceration of a family member or significant friend, from the time the phone rings with news of the arrest onward. Denham shares the jargon, procedures, tricks and traps in his coverage of jail visits, bail, public defenders, jail medical care, and legal and jail costs, and he outlines a decision-making process that considers the well-being of the entire family. Hard-hitting, blunt, and practical, this book is packed with inside knowledge of the jail experience.” -Libr J.

Halving it All

Deutsch, Francine
Harvard University 1999        Dewey Dec.    649

“Halving It All takes the discussion beyond shrill ideological arguments about working mothers and absent fathers. Deutsch shows how, with the best of intentions, people perpetuate inequalities and injustices on the home front, but also, and more important, how they can devise more equal arrangements – out of explicit principles, or simply out of fairness and love.” -Publisher

Contents: Why not equality? — Creating equality at home — Creating Inequality at home — Fighting over practice and principle — Friends and foes — Babies, breastfeeding, bonding, and biology — Career detours — Why couples don’t practice what they preach — The mother and Mr. Mom — Constructing identities as parents and professionals — Equality works — How I did the study.

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Thoughts of Busy Girls …

Written by a group of girls who have little time for study, and yet who find much time for thinking

Dodge, Grace H., ed.
Cassell 1892        Dewey Dec.    649

These letters on 12 topics are the combined work of over 50 members of the Thirty-eighth Street Working Girls’ Society in New York City.

Contents: 1. What Constitutes an Ideal Womanhood and How to Attain to It, 2. Purity and Modesty: Two Words of Value, 3. Married and Single Life, 4. Family Life, 5. Hints as to Education and Books, 6. How to Cultivate Good Manners, 7. Jealousy: What is It?, 8. Practical Matters, 9. Influence of Art Upon Life, 10. Women as Moral Reformers, 11. Glimpses into the Business Part of Life, 12. How Can We Help One Another?, 13. Definition of Certain Words, 14. Club Life: Its Power

Emotionally Intelligent Parenting

Elias, Maurice J. et al.
Harmony 1999        Dewey Dec.    649

“Based upon extensive research, firsthand experience, and case studies, Emotionally Intelligent Parenting breaks the mold of traditional parenting books by taking into account the strong role of emotions–those of parents and children–in psychological development. With this book, parents will learn how to communicate with children on a deeper, more gratifying level and how to help them successfully navigate the intricacies of relating to others. The authors take the five basic principles of Daniel Goleman’s best-seller, Emotional Intelligence, and explain how they can be applied to successful parenting. To this end, the book offers suggestions, stories, dialogues, activities, and a special section of Sound EQ Parenting Bites to help parents use their emotions in the most constructive ways, focusing on such everyday issues as sibling rivalry, fights with friends, school situations, homework, and peer pressure. In the authors’ extensive experience, children respond quickly to these strategies, their self-confidence is strengthened, their curiosity is piqued, and they learn to assert their independence while developing their ability to make responsible choices.” Publisher

How to Talk so Kids will Listen & Listen so Kids will Talk

Faber, Adele
Perennial Currents 2002        Dewey Dec.    649

“This book is designed to facilitate communication between parents and their children, discusses how to cope with an unhappy child, resolving family conflicts, and how to set boundaries for a child without damaging goodwill.”

Contents: Helping children deal with their feelings — Engaging cooperation — Alternatives to punishment — Encouraging autonomy — Praise — Freeing children from playing roles — Putting it all together — What’s it all about, anyway? — Afterword — Twenty years later — The letters — Yes, but … what if … how about …? — Their native tongue.

The Young Lady, or, Guide to Knowledge, Virtue and Happiness

Fergurson, Anna, comp.
Fletcher 1852        Dewey Dec.    649

Essays compiled from various authors.

Contents: Why do ye live, – Just Views of Life, – Character of Associates, – The Rose and the Clay, – Social Intercourse, – Home, – Filial Duties, – A Contrast, – Idle Daughters, – Youth, – Reveries, – Government of the Thoughts, – The Ivy, – Politeness in Conversation, – A Parable, – Little Things, – Temper, – Kindness, – Michael Angelo, – General Reading, – Study of the Scriptures, – General Cultivation, – Duties of Women to their Country, – Humility, – Courtesy, – Extract, – Dress, – Requisition for the Toilet, – Personal Habits, – Conduct during Matrimonial Engagements, – The Lady’s Reverie

Toxic Parents: Overcoming their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

Toxic Parents Book Cover

Forward, Susan and Buck, Craig
Bantam 2002        Dewey Dec.    362.8

The authors identify types of hurtful parents, including alcoholics, verbal and physical abusers, and those who emotionally neglect their children. They also offer advice to adult child abuse victims on how to overcome the harm done.

Books on Healthy Living, Illness, Disability, Family Planning

Monsters under the Bed and other Childhood Fears: helping your child overcome anxieties, fears, and phobias

Garber, Steven W. et al.
Villard 1993        Dewey Dec.    649

“Following opening chapters on understanding and identifying a child’s fear and some overall guidelines on teaching basic relaxation techniques, the authors introduce their basic plan for overcoming fear through imagination, information, observation and exposure.”

Contents: P.1 Understanding and responding to your child’s fear — P.2 Coping with fears — P.3 Overcoming fears — P.4 First fears — P.5 Separation fears — P.6 Animal and insect feasr — P.7 Nature fears — P.8 Transportation fears — P.9 Medical fears — P.10 Social fears — P.11 School fears — P.12 Spatial fears P.13 Fear of fear — P.14 Fear of death — P.15 Growing up less fearful in a fearful world.

Mothers in Council

Gilman, Stella
Harper & Brothers 1884        Dewey Dec.    649

The contents of this book came from discussions in a mothers’ club in Washington County, Virginia. Typically the group would read an essay on a topic about some aspect of child-raising, then discuss it. In other cases the club-members submitted their own short papers.

Some of the topics: The Importance of Bringing up our Sons to be Good Husbands and our Daughters to be Contented and Useful Old Maids, – Bathing; Various kinds of Baths, Drying the Body, etc., – The Vexed Questions of Amusements and Sunday Occupations, – The Choice and Use of Books by Children, – The Early Education of Children, – Good Servants, and How to Get Them; The Kitchen the Heart of the Home, Freemasonry among Servants, – Sugar and Sweet Cakes; Lavish Use of Sugar, Feeding Animals, Hot Bread, – The Formation of the Child’s Character

Thoughts on Self-Culture, Addressed to Women

Grey, Maria G. and Shirreff, Emily
Crosby and Nichols 1851        Dewey Dec.    649

Contents: 1a. General View of the Position and Influence of Women, 1b. Views of Life, and their Influence on Education, 2. Power and Influence of Habit, 3. On Method, 4. Conscience, and the Government of the Will, 5. Love and Pursuit of Truth, 6. Love of Moral Excellence, 7. Benevolence, 8. Instruments of Moral Discipline, 9. Mental Training, 10. General Method of Study, 11. Choice of Subjects for Study, 12. Love of Knowledge, 13. Culture of the Imagination, 14. Religion

Love and the Woman of To-morrow

Hensley, Almon
Dranes 1913        Dewey Dec.    649

Sophia Margaretta Almon Hensley (1866-1946) was a Canadian from Nova Scotia and a poet. She moved with her husband to New York City in 1890 where she was active in child welfare and feminist causes, and also wrote non-fiction on issues related to marriage and family. This book was remarkable for its liberal views on unwed mothers.

The Care and Feeding of Children. A Catechism for the Use of Mothers and Children’s Nurses

Holt, Luther Emmitt
Appleton 1914        Dewey Dec.    649

“Standard work of high authority and value.” – A.L.A.Catalog 1904-11

Selected Articles from a Century Ago on Miscellaneous Topics

Raising America: experts, parents, and a century of advice about children

Hulbert, Ann
Knopf 2003        Dewey Dec.    649

“Since the beginning of the twentieth century, millions of anxious parents have turned to child-rearing manuals for reassurance. Instead, however, they have often found yet more cause for worry. In this rich social history, Ann Hulbert analyzes one hundred years of shifting trends in advice and discovers an ongoing battle between two main approaches: a “child-centered” focus on warmly encouraging development versus a sterner “parent-centered” emphasis on instilling discipline. She examines how pediatrics, psychology, and neuroscience have fueled the debates but failed to offer definitive answers. And she delves into the highly relevant and often turbulent personal lives of the popular advice-givers, from L. Emmett Holt and Arnold Gesell to Bruno Bettelheim and Benjamin Spock to the prominent (and ever conflicting) experts of today.” -Publisher

Contents:The Birth of a Science — The Century of the Child — Two Experts Grow Up — Infant Regimens, Adolescent Passions — Psychological Leaps — The Era (and Errors) of the Parent — The Misbehaviorist — The Anatomist of Normalcy — Identity Crisis — The Awkward Age of the Expert — The Therapist — The Moralists — Psychological Limits — All in the Family — Ministers, Mentors, and Managers — What to Expect from the Experts

The Young Lady’s Mentor …

A Guide to the Formation of Character, in a series of letters to her unknown friends

A Lady
Peck & Bliss 1851        Dewey Dec.    649

Contents: Contentment, – Temper, – Falsehood and Truthfulness, – Envy, – Selfishness and unselfishness, – Self-Control, – Economy, – The Cultivation of the Mind, – Amusements, – The Influence of Women on Society, – The Sphere of Woman’s Influence, – Education of Women, – Love – Marriage, – Literary Capabilities of Women, – Ennui, and the Desire to be Fashionable, – The Influence of Personal Character, – On the Means of Securing Personal Influence

The Mother of all Baby Name Books: over 94,000 baby names complete with origins and meanings

Lansky, Bruce
Meadowbrook 2003        Dewey Dec.    649

Offers an alphabetical listing of both female and male names, including origins, meaning, and variations, and provides ethnic names from over one hundred countries.

Contents: 15 Things to Consider When Naming Your Baby — The 100 Most Popular Girls’ Names of 2001 — The 100 Most Popular Boys’ Names of 2001 — Baby Name Worksheet — Final Choice Worksheet — Girls’ Names — Boys’ Names

The Third Chapter: Passion, Risk, and Adventure in the 25 Years after 50

Lawrence-Lightfoot, Sara
Farrar, Straus and Giroux 2009        Dewey Dec.    305.26

“New opportunities for creativity and self-fulfillment await men and women between the ages of 50 and 75 …, as illustrated in the author’s extended interviews with 40 well-educated, affluent Americans. Founding her thesis on classic formulations of life-stage development, particularly that of Erik Erikson, the author offers a wide range of models for people who feel burned out, restless or dissatisfied with their lives …” – Publ Wkly

Contents: Introduction : facing the mirror — Loss and liberation — Constancy and change — Healing wounds : the journey home — Looking back and giving forward — Crossing boundaries and embracing contradictions — New learning : body, voice, and soul — Conclusion: cracks in the mirror.

Rents in our Robes

Leslie, Mrs. Frank
Belford, Clarke 1888        Dewey Dec.    306

The author, Miriam Florence Folline Leslie, was the wife of millionaire NY magazine publisher Frank Leslie and a major force in NY City society at the time she wrote these articles for magazines in the 1880s. Chapter headings: – Danger to Rosebuds, – Flirtation, – Marriage as a Fine Art, – Co-Education of Boys and Girls, – Courtesy Towards Women, – Friendship between Man and Woman, – Pretty Women and Handsome Men, – How Women should Care for Health, – Hypocrisy in Society, – Woman’s Co-operative Union, – Hotel and Home Life, – How a Woman can Earn a Living, – The Woman of the Future, – Excuse Me, Madam!, – My Better Half, – Try Change of Air

Books on Crime, Criminal Justice, Terrorism

The Care of Children

Harvard Health Talks series

Morse, John Lovett, M.D.
Harvard University 1923        Dewey Dec.    649

What to Expect the First Year

Murkoff, Heidi et al.
Workman 2010        Dewey Dec.    649

For each of 12 months, there are guides to the progress the baby may be expected to be making at this stage, a list of potential health or other problems and paragraphs on the myriad questions all new parents ask–on subjects as various as in-home care, birthmarks, circumcision and breath-holding. Other sections cover what to buy for a new-born, first aid, recipes, adoption and even how to enjoy the first year, in terms of the parents’ own activities, such as social life and sex.

Join the Club

Rosenberg, Tina
Norton 2011        Dewey Dec.    303

“A winner of the National Book Award and the Pulitzer Prize, Tina Rosenberg has spent her career tackling some of the world’s hardest problems. Now, through striking stories from around the globe, Rosenberg shows how positive peer pressure can change people’s behavior and solve seemingly intractable social quandaries. In every case, pioneering social entrepreneurs throw out the old models for social change in favor of humanity’s most powerful and abundant resource: our connections with one another. The result is one of those rare books that will not only revolutionize the way you look at the world but also give you the power to change it.” -Publisher

Contents: Turning positive — The empire of irrationality — Righteous rebels — Corporate tools — The calculus club — Angels of change — A problem that has no name — The party — The judo of fear — Next.

The Queenly Mother in the Realm of Home

Sangster, Margaret E.
Revell 1907        Dewey Dec.    649

Rumspringa: To Be or Not To Be Amish

Shachtman, Tom
Northpoint 2006        Dewey Dec.    305.23

An analysis of Amish youth culture profiles the coming-of-age ritual known as the rumspringa, during which sixteen-year-old Amish adolescents are permitted to venture outside of the bounds of their faith, experiment with alcohol and smoking, wear trendy clothes, and ultimately decide if they want to remain detached from the outside world.

Contents: Going away — A glory old time — Straightforward conversations — Education: prepare for usefulness — Faith and doctrine: stand fast and believe the Word as written — Shunning: to keep the church pure — Farming: the ideal occupation — Working away — Women’s lib would have a field day among the Amish — Seeking solutions — Coming home: an essay

Books on Social Sciences, Sociology, Anthropology, Ethnic Studies

Caring for your School-age Child: ages 5 to 12

Schor, Edward
Bantam 1995        Dewey Dec.    649

“State-of-the-art advice for mothers, fathers, and caregivers from the American Academy of Pediatrics.
You’ve outgrown the baby books–but your school-age child needs you more than ever. No longer are the middle years of childhood considered a time of relative calm and smooth development. During the years from five to twelve, children must master the skills and habits that determine their future health and well-being–and parents have a crucial role to play. The American Academy of Pediatrics, the organization that represents the nation’s finest pediatricians and the most advanced research and practice in the field of child health from infancy to young adulthood, presents this fully revised and updated guide for parents who want to help their children thrive during these exciting and challenging years.” -Publisher

Dr. Spock’s Baby and Child Care

Spock, Benjamin
Dutton 1992        Dewey Dec.    649

“All the most common childhood illnesses and symptoms are described and the best treatment advised, as well as what to do in an emergency. In clear, sensible language, it tells you how to care for a newborn infant, how to guide your toddler or adolescent through the difficult stages, and what to do about school problems. Virtually every aspect of the care of infants, children, and teenagers is covered, from sleep problems to discipline to sex and drugs–all the basic information that has made Dr. Spock’s Baby and Child Care the most authoritative and complete parenting guide ever written.” -Publisher

Contents: The parents’ part — Equipment and clothing — Medical and nursing care — Infant feeding — Breast-feeding — Bottle-feeding — Changes in diet and schedule — Daily care — Immunizations — Problems of infancy — Comforters and thumb-sucking — The development of babies — Preventing injuries — Feeding young children — One-year-olds — Managing young children — Toileting — Two-year-olds — Three to six — From six to eleven — Schools — Adolescence — Illness — First aid — Special situations — Divorce, single parenting, and remarriage — A better world for our children.

You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation

Tannen, Deborah
Ballantine 1991        Dewey Dec.    302

“A chatty, earnest and endearing book that promises here-and-now rewards for taking the trouble to listen more carefully to what others are saying–and to be more sensitive to what others are hearing.” LOS ANGELES TIMES Discover how men and women can interpret the same conversation differently, even when there is no apparent misunderstanding. Discover why sinscere attempts to communicate are so often confounded, and how we can prevent or relieve some of the frustration. This fascinating, helpful, and controversial book–on the NEW YORK TIMES Bestseller list for two years!–explores, in depth the differing style men and women articulate, and how to work through it and get to the heart of the matter.” -Publisher

Contents: Different words, different worlds — Asymmetries : women and men talking at cross-purposes — “Put down that paper and talk to me!” : rapport-talk and report-talk — Gossip — “I’ll explain it to you” : lecturing and listening — Community and contest : styles in conflict — Who’s interrupting? : issues of dominance and control — Damned if you do — “Look at me when I’m talking to you!” : cross talk across the ages — Living with asymmetry : opening lines of communication.

Aging Well: Surprising Guideposts to a Happier Life from the Landmark Harvard Study of Adult Development

Vaillant, George E.
Little, Brown 2002        Dewey Dec.    305.26

“In an unprecedented series of studies, Harvard Medical School has followed 824 subjects-men and women, some rich, some poor- from their teens to old age. Harvard’s George Vaillant now uses these studies, the most complete ever done anywhere in the world, and the subjects’ individual histories to illustrate the factors involved in reaching a happy, healthy old age. He explains precisely why some people turn out to be more resilient than others, the complicated effects of marriage and divorce, negative personality changes, and how to live a more fulfilling, satisfying and rewarding life in the later years. He shows why a person’s background has less to do with their eventual happiness than the specific lifestyle choices they make. And he offers step-by-step advice about how each of us can change our lifestyles and age successfully. Sure to be debated on talk shows and in living rooms, Vaillant’s definitive and inspiring book is the new classic account of how we live and how we can live better.” -Publisher

Contents: 1. The study of adult development — 2. Ripeness is all : social and emotional maturation — 3. The past and how much it matters — 4. Generativity : a key to successful aging — 5. Keeper of the meaning — 6. Integrity : death be not proud — 7. Healthy aging : a second pass — 8. Retirement, play, and creativity — 9. Does wisdom increase with age? — 10. Spirituality, religion, and old age — 11. Do people really change over time? — 12. Positive aging : a reprise — Appendices — A. The three cohorts — B. An illustrated glossary of defenses — C. Methodology for assessing maturity of adaptive mental mechanisms (a.k.a. defenses) — D. Assessment of childhood scales — E. Basic trust at age 50 associated with childhood environment and future successful aging — F. Scale for subjective physical health (instrumental activities of daily living) — G. Scale for objective mental health (age 50-65) — H. Scale for objective social supports (age 50-70, Harvard cohort only) — I. Scale for subjective life satisfaction — J. Table contrasting the happy-well with the sad-sick and the prematurely dead — K. Graceful aging scale

The Anatomy of Prejudices

Young-Bruehl, Elisabeth
Harvard Univ. 1998        Dewey Dec.    303

“The author turns a critical lens on prejudice, surveying the study of prejudice since World War II. She suggests an approach that distinguishes between different types of prejudices, the people who hold them, the social and political settings that promote them, and the human needs they fulfill.” – Publisher

Contents: Introduction: Studying Prejudices
Part I: A Critique of Pure Overgeneralization – Theories of Prejudice: A Preliminary Classification – What Happened to the “Prejudiced Personality” – Sociology Surveys the American Dilemma – The Prejudice That Is Not One – The Homophobias
Part II: Starting Again: Prejudices–In the Plural – “Social Character” in Search of a Theory – Character Types and Their Ideologies of Desire – Origins and Developmental Lines: Children and Prejudice – Adolescence and the Aims of Hatreds – Shared Prejudices, Societal Styles – Constructing Ideal Types – The Body and Soul of Narcissism
Part III: Current Ideologies: The Victims Speak – Varieties of Silencing – On Resistance to Hysterical Repression – Feeling the Contradictions of Sexism and Being the Targets of Homophobias – Epilogue


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